Why is it so hard to find trichotillomania treatment?
Those who pull their eyelashes and eyebrows
have one general thing in common:
We pull our eyelashes and/or eyebrows.
But I’ve noticed we all pull for different reasons.
Sometimes it’s sensory, like the need to touch and feel.
Or when we experience a great deal of stress or anxiety.
Maybe it’s a cognitive thought process, a thought about pulling one lash
gets into our heads and then it continues.
It could also be an activity that we associate with a certain place
or a time of the day. Or it could be a combination of these things.
Because it seems that we all have different “triggers”,
different trichotillomania treatment may work on one but not another.
And, as you may know, the research is SPARSE! (see what I did there!)
Where understanding your emotions and linking emotions to feelings
and the way it manifests in our body is a massive awakening,
it was not the Secret Fix to cracking the code of my trichotillomania.
To this day, I really cannot isolate a specific emotion or feeling or situation,
and because of that, I rule out emotional triggers.
Personally, I really do not think I have just one.
But I do know that I am very tactile about pulling my eyelashes
and it’s a sensory act.
More often than not, I am unaware it’s even happening,
like when I am reading or watching tv zoning out.
Most recently… I’ve been pulling my eyelashes and eyebrows in my sleep.
But that is another topic for another day.
Why is Finding Trichotillomania Treatment so hard?
I think a BIG struggle in finding the correct treatment for trichotillomania
is the lack of understanding and the lack of research available.
I did the literary search. There are very few trichotillomania clinical publications.
Thus, many therapists don’t have the information we need.
Or, the therapist will be biased in their specific training,
they are not treating the trichotillomania by what may work for each individual,
and sometimes that has to be a discovery of trial and error.
And then we get discouraged.
But then….there was something that DID WORK for me.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy for Trichotillomania
Dialectical Behavior Therapy changed my life. In a big way.
But not in the way you think.
I didn’t stop pulling my eyelashes or eyebrows.
I was OKAY that I pulled my eyelashes or eyebrows.
Radical acceptance entirely changed my worldview.
I was not mad at myself anymore when I pulled my eyelashes.
I was not mad at myself anymore when I pulled my eyebrows.
The cycle of self-shame stopped.
Dialectical behavior therapy gave me the awareness to be present, in the moment.
I didn’t allow my thoughts to race about if my eyelashes would grow back,
or “what did I just do”?! Or “how could I just do that to myself”??
It all stopped. It was quiet. The self-shaming became a NON-issue.
Would I like to be “pull-free”?
OF COURSE. Who wouldn’t.
But I know appreciate that it’s important I stay present, in the moment,
with absolute and utter unconditional acceptance with trichotillomania.
I have trichotillomania, and I learned I can be free of the shame.
Are you shaming yourself??